They have most likely watched our every move and learnt what makes us tick. I am sure we all wanted our children to think of us as strong, organised, fun, loving, responsible, reliable and caring. However, if they have been watching our every move they may have seen a ‘do as I say’ and not ‘do as I do’ pattern of behaviour. They know very quickly where our double standards are, know when we have an ‘off-day,’ know when we lose it and they know when we don’t tell the truth. We can’t get away with anything – that is a killer. There is no putting the family on a ‘no chocolate’ diet if we are chewing chocolate like it’s going out of style. There is no point becoming upset about the mess they make of their bedrooms or any space they use, if our own spaces are not kept in order and tidy or if the inside of the car is a mess, or even if we are a mess. We may think we are ‘on it’ as parents but they don’t miss a trick. Equally they know when we are awesome, inspiring, beautiful and incredible
It’s a fact that we are modelling a way of life for our children to see and are role models who provide a blue-print for them to copy at any time.
So what is the magic for us here?
If they are looking at us – let’s give them something to look at 😎
What happens when we do this?
We give our children a blue-print to live with for the rest of their lives, one that will be the foundation they develop in their own lives. We may not see things magically change overnight, but it can be a blue-print for living.
Our potential as parents is to role model through our activity
In this series of blog posts, you will find articles that discuss foundational practices in parenting. Not just articles on what we do but why we do what we do for a healthy body and a healthy relationship with others.