Ahoy, me hearties! Talk like a pirate day is upon us - time for some playful parenting...
This often comes out in the form of ‘I’m right and you’re wrong’ and ‘you have to do as I say’, for example the ‘my way or the highway’ approach.
Perhaps this is a good moment to put on our pirate hat and pull ourselves back from all of this to reconnect with the playfulness of parenting, as it’s through the magic of being playful as a parent that true wisdom is shared; whether that wisdom comes from us or our children.
When we’re playful, right and wrong don’t exist, all that matters is that there is a connection and that we’re having fun, which is why it can be awesome to seize the opportunity of funny moments like Talk like a Pirate day to break the tension between us and our children and help us really value what matters.
In play we return to who we truly are, our natural innate essence. There is an equalness between us that allows for a freedom in our expression, where we can be impulsive and share joyfully without needing or expecting anything back in return other than enjoying the fun.
By being playful we’re deepening our connection with our children and inviting them to join us in our pirate ship and be swashbucklers together.
In fact, this is often the starting point for many and if it isn’t nipped in the bud early, it can become an engrained pattern for both the victim and the perpetrator.
What happens in our parenting as they get older that tells boys they do not have these same qualities as girls, that they are different?
Have you made conversations about your period a regular conversation in your home or, like many, was it something that was kept relatively hidden and, as a result, much of the education about periods was done at school and potentially reduced it to a functional process that then became a 'curse', a 'nuisance', a 'nightmare of emotional ups and downs'? This is an interview with Sara Harris from Follow Your Flow about how to start the conversation around periods in your home.
It’s because of the taboo around menstruation and the stigma that society still carries and we are tainted with, which makes us think periods should be hidden until such time when it needs to be dusted off and brought out of the closet. If a child has grown up with an understanding of the beauty of her body and how it changes, then a period will be as ‘as natural as breathing.’ For most of us, however this is not the case.
Are you ready to be off-the planet amazing?
But how can we offer that level of appreciation to another person,
They don’t do their chores, their bedroom is a bomb site of ‘stuff’, they don’t smile when we come home, they don’t do what we consider to be important and they never do X, they don’t do Y and they will not do Z.
In this series of blog posts, you will find articles that discuss foundational practices in parenting. Not just articles on what we do but why we do what we do for a healthy body and a healthy relationship with others.