Some have taken the opportunity to press pause on what has been a fast-paced and at times, adrenaline-fuelled lifestyle and diary, to re-group and re-connect with ourselves and family and re-visit tasks we have wanted to do for a long time – get on top of that lovely ‘to-do’ list and kick procrastination out of the door. There has been a sense of space and working together to find smart ways to do things. In other areas, community response can be seen and felt as generated from fear, inducing a level of anxiety and stress because we don’t have the level of freedom we once had, fear of catching the disease from each other, and anxiety from not having access to the stress-relieving strategies that might once have been our go-to, such as sports centres, shops, cinemas, gyms, restaurants. With these all closing and no gatherings of more than two people – I mean hello – what is left?!!!
There is also fear of how the lockdown will impact our jobs, our capacity to earn enough money to survive and even if we will have enough food for our families, these are all very real concerns and will contribute to the soup of thoughts that are seemingly going around in our head. Often perception of things, people and events are then influenced by that soup.
So, when we have all family members sharing a confined space together, and if, for example, you have some of this stress from fear and anxiety going on, then making decisions, interacting and communications are understandably affected and as a result, relationships in the home can be fraught.
We haven’t all been taught the necessary skills to deal with such situations, and therefore, many of us feel we don’t necessarily have all the tools at hand to cope with lock-down. It’s a new, and for most of us, an unusual experience.
So what can we do to help ourselves in this exposing and potentially vulnerable time?
Obviously, you do not have to do anything. Yet perhaps by choosing to not bring more appreciation or implement some of the processes above, then being critical ‘picking’, on each other, ‘nagging’, making assumptions, will start to dominate in the home environment and this may build a tension that can actually end up confirming your bedroom is the safest place to be.
In summary, we don’t need to be all powerful and strong and wear a shield of protection all the time, even in front of the children. As we appreciate ourselves and admit the stress and possible fear we are in, or have been in, it allows space for it to dissipate. This allows endless possibilities of ways to bring greater degrees of honesty to our conversations and harmony in the home.
Lockdown need not drive us, nor the dog, crazy?
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