Why do I feel scared of my child?
There feels an increasingly common thread in parenting, and it’s huge to admit yet alone talk about. We’ve come a long way in recent decades to expose a level of abuse and domestic violence in homes between adults. We now have a level of awareness of this issue and support systems in place. But who is talking about the level of abuse that is occurring from our children in our homes towards us as parents?
This abuse can be seen in many ways: from teens refusing to come out of the bedroom, refusing to eat the food provided, being demeaning, dismissive and verbally destructive in the home. In addition, we see manipulation occurring to get and access devices or games that are violent or out of their age range, our teens are attending events that don’t feel safe in our assessment, and we are being pressurised into purchasing all kinds of things for them that take us beyond our financial means, we are having raised voices towards us, with our teens yelling right into our face leaving us shaken, crushed and disempowered, even being physically hit by our children of any age from toddler to adult child.
The sense of feeling powerless can be overwhelming. We have an opportunity to stop and ask:
What is going on? How did my child become the bully in our home and why do I feel so intimidated to jump to its tune to appease this force?
We need to understand this is happening everywhere and it is not just in our homes. It’s a global occurrence. We need to be honest to really see what is going on for us, that is the first step if we want to change. We do not need to live like this.