Playfulness in Parenting


You may have noticed that parenting can sometimes be an intense business, that we can easily become overwhelmed with the pressure of showing that we have all the answers, whilst looking the ‘part’ and masterfully kidding everyone that we’re in control. Not to mention being the caring, ever listening, nurturing parent we are and then nimbly switching into discipline mode when it’s urgently called for.


This often comes out in variations of ‘I’m right and you’re wrong’ and ‘you have to do as I say’, for example the ‘my way or the highway’ approach.

Perhaps this is a good moment to reconnect with the playfulness of parenting, as it’s through the magic of being playful and having the simplicity of fun together that true wisdom is shared, whether that wisdom comes from us or the children in our lives.


When we’re playful, all the right and wrong in the world doesn’t exist, all that matters is that there is a connection and that we’re having fun, which is why it can be awesome to seize the opportunity of funny moments in our day to break the tension between us and our children and help us really value what matters.


In play, we return to who we truly are, our natural innate essence. There is an equalness between us that allows for a freedom in our expression, where we can be impulsive and share joyfully without needing or expecting anything back in return other than enjoying the fun.


This isn’t about faking it till you make it – remember children have a radar for lack of integrity, it is about genuinely finding playful moments in and amongst the ‘seriousness’ of life and observe rather than absorb. What are the moments that are so absurd that you just have to laugh at them? There are sooo many once you start to see them.


By being playful we’re deepening our connection with our children and inviting them to join us to have fun together equally.


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Further reading

Falling in love with appreciation

We are all kinds of awesome

Learning is an on-going process

The basics of communication