Looking for what's wrong

There is no doubt that relationships in our day to day lives can challenge us, it’s as if all we see are the issues and irritations and not the people in front of us. We can focus on small things which we build into 'issues' and end up looking out for more of the same. These are small things that annoy us, that don’t fit the picture of how we think life 'should be'. With our families, sometimes, it feels like there are soooo many things for us to see and feel annoyed about.

For example, Someone in the family doesn't do their chores, their bedrooms are a bomb site of ‘stuff’, they don’t smile when we come home, they don’t do what we consider to be important ... the list could go on.

So, we fall into a pattern of looking for what’s wrong instead of appreciating the amazing people in our lives. Instead, we fall into seeing each other as a mass of irritation. Could it be, that it’s the very pictures we have of how our families 'should be' that is the issue?

You have to admit, at this point, we are not appreciating each other. Instead, we are being negative Nancys. It could be that we have been raised to think appreciation is a frivolous thing, a bit of nonsense that is going to give someone a big head. We dismiss appreciation as a bit of fluff, but what we are missing if we do that?

Appreciation is like magic, it changes situations

in ways that are unexplainable and unimaginable.


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Falling in love with appreciation

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